Ari’s 5 whys transcript

Problem

My relationships always end badly.

1st Why

Why do your relationships end badly?

Because my partners get sick of me.

2nd Why

Why do they get sick of you?

Because I never have energy when I am with them. I am too exhausted to do interesting things and I just want to stay home and watch movies.

3rd Why

Why do you never have energy?

Because I work very long shifts.

4th Why

Why do you work very long shifts?

Because I have an expensive lifestyle: expensive car, modern apartment, I eat at expensive restaurants…

5th Why

Why do you have such expensive tastes?

Because I think it will impress the people I meet and make me more attractive to potential partners.

What is the root cause?

I am so preoccupied with appealing to potential partners that I work myself too hard to pay for my expensive lifestyle, and then I am too tired to spend quality time with them.